1. kitty81301 Diyor ki :

   Loss??????
   Loss………..?
   Hi, I had twins about a year ago and daughters twin Austin passed away at 7 months old. (he had a lot of problems) Now my problem is that I am with drawing from my hubby. I love him but I just dont know what it is I get so mad at him for stupid things I would rather spend time with my friends then be home with him or when i am home i prefer to be left alone with my outher two kids. I really do love my husband but I think there is a big problem. I have never been one to show my emotions and I dont know why im doing what I am. Because I really do love him . We have been to counsiling but my hubby decided that he didnt want to go anymore that it wasnt helping.Any advise?

2. Luann Diyor ki :

   Keep going to counseling without him.
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3. Jenna s Diyor ki :

   Well it could be post tramatic stress dissorder. I would suggest you keep going to counsiling. and just let your husband know that you do love him your just going through a hard time.. and maybe you have not let yourself greev over the lost baby because you were busy taking care of the otherone.. either way keep going to therapy. Sit down and talk with your husband. I think it will help if you spend time with him. i know you dont want to but it may help. get a sitter and go on a romantic date with him.. but number like i said keep seeing a therapist.
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4. mackie Diyor ki :

   What i think you should do is put some of austins stuff in a box and every week or so get it out and look at it, have kind of a family time thing. Then you and your family can get closer together. Try to have a family meeting every couple of weeks and you and your family can talk about the troubles that you are having and help each other through your problems.
   Hope you are doing better and very sorry to hear about the loss, i know how it is

   With hope and love

   McKenzie
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5. BeautifulLiar Diyor ki :

   sorry for your loss. You should continue counseling so you can feel better.
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6. Mom to Foster Children Diyor ki :

   go without him and talk to your doctor it sounds like you might need an anti depressent.
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7. Mandy S Diyor ki :

   I think you need to go back to counseling. It takes a long time. He can’t expect that after a few counseling sessions, you’ll feel all better about your son’s death. If they were born about a year ago, and he was seven months old when he died, it’s been less than about six months, and that may seem like a long time, but it’s not. The fact that you still have one of the twins could actually be making it harder to grieve in a way, because your living child could be serving as a constant reminder of your lost child, and the desire to celebrate her life could be clashing with the need to grieve your other child’s death.

   It’s gonna take time, and work, and patience, and it probably would be best for you to get counseling seperately and together, and perhaps it would be a good idea to join a support group for grieving parents.

   I’m so sorry, no words offered here can express the sympathy and…. I can’t think of the right word — pity (?) — I have for you.

   It’s not the exact same thing, but my stepsister died at the age of 22 years old, and I know my stepmom went through a period of withdrawl from my dad for a while. He’s kind of thick-headed, and it just didn’t seep in when she tried to explain what was going on, because her feelings were so unsteady. What did help, though, was when someone else he respected, who had gone through a similar issue, talked to him and stressed the importance of patience while my stepmom got through the initial shock and the depression that came later. This is where a good counselor, doctor, or someone from a support group could really be good here.

   My thoughts are with you.
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8. martin s Diyor ki :

   well you dont need him to go the counciling, its you with the problem who needs help.

   you are most likly suffering from post natal depression. and your husband, being the creator of the child reminds you of your died baby.

   whatever you do, dont leave him, because once you get over it you will realise how bad a choice it will be, give it time, give yourself time, and you will get over it. time is the greatest healer
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